PST 2026 six paramitas challenge #3: patience

The paramita of patience in Gampopa’s Ornament of Precious Liberation has gotten me through many a challenge in life, including my entire three-year retreat, a setting that provides many more mundane opportunities for practice than one might expect. Whenever I found myself momentarily annoyed at a fellow retreatant’s habits or behavior, rather than speak or act out of anger I would reread this chapter as soon as I got back to my room, and remember why acting (or even thinking) out of an emotional reaction is 1) not helpful and 2) based on a faulty understanding of the nature of things. Here, in a nutshell, is a concise overview of the paramita of patience, based on Gampopa’s explanation.

Patience is specifically the antidote to anger, which can manifest in a wide spectrum of emotional reactions from mild irritation to frustration to full-on rage. It is said in the sutras, “Anger is not the path to buddhahood.” How does patience counteract anger and keep us on the path? Let’s start by examining what the Buddhist definition of patience is: “to be unperturbed by anything,” “to be upset by nothing.” (page 185, OPL Ken Holmes translation). That may sound like an impossible goal, but fortunately there are some intermediate ways to work toward it.

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PST 2026 six paramitas challenge #2: ethical conduct

The second paramita in Tibetan is tsultrim, usually translated as discipline, morality, or ethical conduct. Other terms that have been used to describe it include skillful conduct, right conduct, self-discipline, and integrity. In Sanskrit it is known as sila, which according to my research comes from the word for rock or stone. I’ve also seen it translated as coolness. For me, both definitions bring to mind Shantideva’s advice to “remain like a piece of wood” whenever we find ourselves on the verge of committing a counterproductive action of body, speech, or mind. It also resonates with the contemporary “gray rock” concept in psychology, i.e., responding minimally and without affect in an interaction that threatens to trigger an emotional reaction.

There’s more to the paramita of ethical conduct, but its overall intent is that we cultivate vigilance in order to 1) inhibit reflexive habits and reactions that feed the cycle of samsaric confusion and suffering, and 2) gradually replace them with new habits that are in accord with the dharma and with our bodhisattva aspiration to fully wake ourselves up from the illusion or dream of samsara so that we can help others free themselves. Ringu Tulku Rinpoche has said that this paramita comes down to practicing mindfulness. What do we need to be mindful about? This is expressed succinctly in Shakyamuni Buddha’s summary of the entire path, which also happens to reflect the three-fold practice of ethical conduct:

Refrain from actions that cause harm,
Engage in virtue all you can.
Tame your own mind utterly:
This is the Buddha’s great teaching.

~ Shakyamuni Buddha
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The Upside of Uncertainty

One thing most of us can be certain of is that many situations in the course of our lives will bring about feelings of uncertainty, and in many cases those feelings will be uncomfortable. My favorite dictionary defines uncertainty as “the state of being uncertain,” which in turn has various shades of meaning, including “not known precisely, not fixed; not precisely determined, established, or decided; not to be depended on, unreliable; liable to variation, changeable.”

Last Sunday the Palpung-Richmond Buddhist sangha engaged in an interactive dharma workshop defining, discussing, and practicing with uncertainty. It turns out that uncertainty isn’t always unpleasant, and also that, however it makes us feel, it has a very significant upside!

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PST 2026 (or any time) six paramitas challenge #1: generosity

PTC Monastery’s affiliated dharma center in Richmond, Virginia, Palpung Shenpen Tharchin, is devoting this year to study and practice of the six paramitas. We’ll meet the first Thursday evening of one month, beginning in January 2026, to discuss a paramita, and the first Thursday of the second month to compare notes and discuss any challenges that may have arisen. The homework between meetings will be to look for opportunities to practice the paramita as much as possible. During January and February our topic and practice will be the paramita of generosity.

The paramitas, aka perfections, aka transcending actions, are the action plan of bodhicitta, which is the intention to fully awaken to our own true nature of wisdom and compassion in order to help others do the same. There are six paramitas, and according to Gampopa they unfold naturally in the order in which they are traditionally presented: generosity, ethics, patience, joyful diligence, meditative stability, and transcendent knowledge (aka the wisdom that realizes emptiness). Actually putting the paramitas into practice (not just studying them) is how we wake ourselves up.

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Tips for keeping practice fresh: PTC monastery discussion

Palpung Thubten Choling Monastery, my home base, has been hosting a monthly sangha discussion via Zoom during the covid pandemic. The theme for March was “Refreshing Our Practice,” and by enthusiastic request we are continuing that general theme for a couple more months.

In March, we covered a variety of topics, beginning with the importance of consistent daily practice on the cushion or chair, within a time frame we can realistically maintain — 15 minutes a day was recommended as a good place to start. It can be challenging at the beginning to sit down every day to practice, and to stay sitting; but with repetition it gradually becomes a habit, like any other routine we wish to establish in our lives. And we may find that not only does our resistance diminish over time — we may even begin to look forward to this daily opportunity to deepen our understanding of our own mind.

In April, we zeroed in on how to work with our practice when it begins to lose vitality and become rote.

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Covid pandemic 2020, part 7: Advice from Situ Rinpoche: “Don’t panic. Don’t give up.”

A few days ago Guru Vajradhara Tai Situ Rinpoche shared advice about how to manage our safety and our fears and remember the dharma during the covid-19 pandemic, which continues to escalate. This video, embedded below, has been widely shared on social media, but I wanted to also preserve it here. Guru Vajradhara Tai Situ Rinpoche is the spiritual director of the worldwide Palpung network of Karma Kagyu monasteries and dharma centers, which includes Palpung Thubten Choling and its affiliated centers.

Rinpoche begins by reminding us that this pandemic is not an extraordinary or unique event in human history. “Many things like this have happened, and this is happening.”

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Covid pandemic 2020, part 6: Pinch me, I must be dreaming

With our routines upended by this week’s public health efforts to contain the coronavirus-covid-19 pandemic, this may be a good time to revisit the profound Buddhist teaching that all our experience is ultimately no more real, solid, lasting or reliable than a dream. Last week we were complaining about going to work, our kids were complaining about going to school, restaurants were packed, Disneyland was open, March Madness was about to begin, and you could buy toilet paper in any supermarket. This week — it’s all gone. Just like last year’s winter and last night’s dream.

We have a song for this, and so does the Buddhist tradition. First, ours:

Row, row, row your boat, gently down the stream,

Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily: life is but a dream.

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Covid pandemic 2020, part 5: Timely advice from contemporary teachers

A vintage dharma quote popped up in my Facebook feed this morning with what turns out to be an excellent suggestion for constructive use of our social distancing time now that covid-19 has been declared a global pandemic and we are all urged to stay home to help contain it (though if you are a healthcare or other essential worker, overwhelmed with WFH, or have kids home from school, you may have to find your moments). As dharma practitioners, this may be the very best thing we can do with whatever extra time we have:

I feel that it is absolutely important to make the practice of meditation your source of strength, your source of basic intelligence. Please think about that. You could sit down and do nothing, just sit and do nothing. Stop acting, stop speeding. Sit and do nothing. You should take pride in the fact that you have learned a very valuable message: you actually can survive beautifully by doing nothing.

Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche, Journey without Goal

A message also came in from Mingyur Rinpoche via his Tergar Learning Community (which offers fabulous online courses, in case you do have some extra time).

Mingyur Rinpoche’s video is below, but here are the highlights for easy reference:

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Covid pandemic 2020, part 4: “If it is better for me to be ill…”

It turns out that our old friend from the 14th century, Togme Zangpo, the author of The 37 Practices of a Bodhisattva, had something to say about how to deal with fear of coronavirus (and all other illnesses) in the 21st century:

If it is better for me to be sick,

May I be blessed with sickness.

If it is better for me to recover,

May I be blessed with health.

If it is better for me to die,

May I be blessed with death.

Ken McLeod begins his commentary on the 37 practices, Reflections on Silver River, with these words. Ken says that when he first encountered this prayer in the 1970s, “It was the strangest prayer I had ever seen and it made no sense to me. Why would you pray to be ill? Why would you pray to die?”

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Covid pandemic 2020, part 3: How to live and how to die

In addition to “others first,” another important resource the mind training tradition offers us is a set of specific practices for empowering both our life and our death (point 5 of the 7 points of mind training, Great Path of Awakening page 25).

In both cases we are applying the same five practices, literally called the five strengths or powers, but in a different order and with somewhat different content depending on whether we have entered the bardo of dying or not. According to the Vajrayana teachings, the bardo — or transitional state — of dying begins as soon as we know what’s going to kill us, e.g, when we get a terminal diagnosis, even if we potentially have years yet to live. However, since we don’t always get a lot of notice, it’s good to be familiar with the five ways to empower our dying process even when we are fit and healthy, and especially if we find ourselves facing a fearsome cause of serious illness and death.

I recommend reading this section in The Great Path of Awakening or another book on mind training, but here’s the gist:

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